Okay so what’s the deal with the whole dating game. And I say game cause sadly that is what it has become. There are winners and losers. People who are bad at it. Good at it. Learners and coaches. It’s honestly sad. What has happened to courtmanship. Loyalty. Honesty. Virtue. Have we become so vain and self indulged that we cannot fathom caring for another person? Has the world jaded us so much that we cannot trust another person?
After speaking with one of my girl friends she mentioned that dating has ceased to exist. No longer does a guy work to get your number, take you on a date and get to know you. Now, guys want you to kiss them AT LEAST when u first meet, give him your number then get to know him. Call me old fashioned, but that doesn’t fly with me. Being single for the first time in college is frustrating. Every guy wants to get in your pants and when you deny it they are magically gone. Guess I’m going to be single for a while!
One of my other girl friends had gotten fed up. She has turned to technology. Signing up for eharmony and zoosk, both are free online dating sites. Here she must weed through profiles to see who has potential and who looks “shady”. Now the question is, how does a picture and a few questions about a person tell you anything? I could go on there put a picture of a model and answer the questions according to what I thought men would enjoy. Going farther with that what if a man with mal-intentions were to do the same. I would never be able to meet up with someone I met online. I would need to travel with a “crew” at all times. To me that just sounds like a horror movie in the making. “Girl meets boy on online dating site. Boy turns out to be 50 year old mass murder. Girls body found in shambles under the bridge!”.
The other thing is people have to actively go out at sign up for these sites. Post a picture. Answer a bunch of questions. So you tell me pro or con? I guess a guy on this sight is not just trying to get laid; He is being proactive to being committed. But why not find someone in person? Then there is the awkward cyber getting to know you. There is no chemistry. No non-verbal cues. No slight touches of affection. I mean what is the guys got a voice you can’t sand but you don’t know until its too late because the computer has been your only source of communication.
I don’t know. I don’t think I will be up to speed with this whole online dating thing. But please tell me what you think because I’m now ranting.
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I dont know how i feel about online dating, just because im cautious at ALL times. i mean i have friends that have people on fb and back in the day myspace and that has ended in a success but i cant bring myself to take that risk, where i come from i was taught i do something like that...i won't come back so NO. lol. anyways it is a shame that the dating game has become wat it is. men have become less chivalrous as women have become more assertive and independent. kind of like as we begin to change our role as submissive mamas, their like is new times i dont need to play my role either. lies. we have a history of being on the bottom, not you fool, and we got lots more to worry about cus ur ass is biologically bigger and stronger than me. shoot me cus i play a little hard to get to see what u want from me. now im babbling. basically my point is men need to learn to man-up when theyre in the dating game. u want booty, say it from the get...ur more likely to get it and still b respected. ur not ready for a relationship, dont treat the girl like she's ur girl..make it known. u like a girl and are curious go up to her, spark a conversation cus lets b honest do u really want a woman hu responds to hey ma whats good wit chu? ...
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